Adult Attachment Style Quiz — Discover Your Secure, Anxious, Avoidant or Fearful Attachment
Determines whether your attachment style is secure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful.
Discover your adult attachment style with the Adult Attachment Style Quiz, a concise, research-informed assessment in the Attachment Styles category. This test helps you identify whether your relationship patterns are secure, anxious (preoccupied), avoidant (dismissive), or fearful (disorganized) so you can better understand how your attachment style affects intimacy, communication, and relationship satisfaction. Using clear, practical questions based on attachment theory, this quiz is ideal for adults seeking self-awareness, improved relationships, or conversation starters for therapy.
Taking the Adult Attachment Style Quiz will give you an actionable snapshot of your attachment-related tendencies — anxiety and avoidance — and provide next steps to move toward more secure attachment. Whether you are curious about how your attachment style impacts dating, long-term partnerships, or friendships, this assessment offers insights, trusted guidance, and evidence-based recommendations to foster healthier emotional connections.
I worry that my partner will stop loving me or will leave me.
Measures anxiety about a partner's availability and affection.
I prefer to handle problems on my own rather than relying on others.
Measures avoidance of relying on emotional support and closeness.
I need a lot of reassurance from my partner about their feelings for me.
Captures preoccupation with reassurance and relationship security.
I feel uncomfortable being emotionally close to others.
Assesses discomfort with intimacy and emotional closeness.
When my partner doesn't respond quickly I assume they've lost interest.
Evaluates sensitivity to perceived rejection and abandonment.
I find it difficult to trust people with my feelings.
Measures reluctance to rely on others emotionally.
I get jealous easily when my partner spends time with others.
Assesses anxious reactions related to jealousy and insecurity.
I value my independence over being in a close relationship.
Indicates prioritizing independence and emotional distance.
I often feel insecure in romantic relationships.
Measures general relationship insecurity and worry.
I keep parts of myself hidden to avoid being vulnerable with others.
Assesses emotional withholding and avoidance of vulnerability.
I become anxious if my partner asks for space or time apart.
Captures distress and preoccupation when distance is requested.
I avoid deep emotional conversations with my partner because they feel overwhelming.
Measures active avoidance of emotional depth and discussion.
Frequently asked questions
This quiz measures two attachment-related dimensions: anxiety (worry about rejection and need for reassurance) and avoidance (discomfort with closeness and dependence). Results map these dimensions into four common adult attachment styles: secure, anxious (preoccupied), avoidant (dismissive), and fearful (disorganized).
The quiz provides a reliable, practical snapshot of attachment tendencies but is not a clinical diagnosis. It uses validated concepts from attachment theory; for a comprehensive assessment or diagnosis, consult a licensed mental health professional or use longer standardized instruments administered by clinicians.
Yes. Attachment styles are influenced by life experiences, relationships, therapy, and intentional practice. People often shift toward a more secure style through consistent, corrective experiences, personal growth work, and therapies that focus on attachment or trauma.
If you score high on anxiety or avoidance, consider targeted strategies: learn emotion-regulation and communication skills, pursue attachment-informed therapy (e.g., Emotionally Focused Therapy), practice vulnerability in safe relationships, and use grounding or CBT techniques to reduce anxiety-driven thoughts.
The quiz is useful for both individuals and couples. For couples, compare results to understand each partner's tendencies and patterns. Use the insights to guide conversations, set boundaries, and seek couples therapy if needed to develop secure attachment behaviors together.
Retake the quiz periodically—every few months or after significant relationship or therapeutic milestones—to track progress. Changes in scores can reflect growth in secure behaviors or shifts after applying recommended strategies.
Yes. Recommended resources include books like 'Attached' by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, 'Hold Me Tight' by Dr. Sue Johnson, and 'The Body Keeps the Score' by Bessel van der Kolk for trauma-informed perspectives. Working with a therapist trained in attachment or EFT can also provide personalized guidance.
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