Intimacy Scale: Relationship Compatibility Test to Measure Emotional Closeness

The Intimacy Scale measures emotional closeness and relationship compatibility across several dimensions — communication, trust, vulnerability, physical and sexual intimacy, conflict resolution, shared activities, and future planning. The combined score offers insight into how connected partners feel and where they can improve.

The score is calculated by summing the numeric values assigned to your selected answers for each question. Higher positive totals indicate higher intimacy and emotional connection, while negative totals suggest areas that may need attention.

Couples can take the Intimacy Scale every 2–3 months to monitor progress, after major life changes (moving, a new job, a baby), or whenever they notice shifts in closeness. Regular check-ins can help track improvements and prompt timely conversations.

Yes. The quiz provides a structured snapshot of strengths and weaknesses in emotional connection. Use the results as a starting point for conversations, and consider relationship education, couple’s therapy, or targeted exercises (e.g., weekly check-ins, gratitude practices) to address specific areas.

This Intimacy Scale is informed by widely accepted relationship and attachment concepts, such as trust, vulnerability, and communication. While it is a practical and research-informed tool for self-reflection, it is not a clinical diagnostic instrument. For clinical concerns, consult a licensed therapist.

Both approaches are useful. Taking it separately gives individual perspectives that can highlight perception gaps. Taking it together can be a guided conversation that fosters openness. Comparing answers later can reveal differences to discuss compassionately.

Differing scores are common and reveal perception gaps. Use the differences as a neutral starting point for conversation: ask clarifying questions, share examples of desired behaviors, and create small experiments to improve mutual understanding and responsiveness.

Yes. Treat quiz responses as personal information. Decide together whether to share results and how to use them. If using a public platform, check data policies. For private use, record results in a secure, mutually agreed place.

Review your score and the recommendations provided. Start with one or two small, consistent actions like scheduling weekly check-ins, practicing gratitude, or increasing non-sexual touch. If deeper issues emerge, consider couples counseling or relationship workshops.

Improving intimacy often strengthens relationships, but it may not resolve every issue (e.g., incompatibility on core values, abusive dynamics). Intimacy work is most effective alongside honest assessments of compatibility and, where necessary, professional support.